Wedding planning for the groom in a Sierra Leone wedding is not that stressful. Like any other wedding the groom is not involve in almost all of the planning because it is customary that the bride does all the planning and the manning during the wedding. Although, this is the custom the groom on his own mind should think on how to show his support to his bride. And to the bride she should always bare in mind that his groom is also important and that he also has his likes and dislikes on how the wedding should happen, it is his day too. Each of them should support each other in planning their wedding.
Here are 7 tips for Grooms-to-be!
Groom’s Emotions. Wedding vow is a very romantic moment and the perfect place to express your feelings towards your partner. It usually consist of what characteristics each bring out in each other, what they look forward to in life, how their lives changed once they met. Deliver it in a relaxed not rushed, framed of mind. Promises of unconditional love and affection, faithfulness and permanence are included in most wedding vows. Your message to your bride should be loving, respectful,and a message of caring and commitment. The wedding vows they will say to each other may be witnessed before God, country and loved ones, but it is their personal message and commitment to each other that is important.
Groom’s Support. This wedding is for the bride and groom. The couple should support each other. Even though, the groom is not much involve in planning he should always remember that this is his wedding too. Groom, try to provide emotional support to your bride she really needs this at this moment for she is taking things seriously and it stresses her that much.
Groom’s Opinion. Each other’s opinion is important. But since the bride does all the planning assure her that you are supporting her in everything she does. Let her know that you also have your own interest and you can help her in such aspects.
Groom’s Gifts. Mboya, should be assembled before the wedding. Part of the bridal payment are rice, salt, palm oil, and fabric for making clothes. Respect to the customs and traditions of each other and your ancestors are always important.
Groom’s Wardrobe. The groom’s wardrobe is called Agbada. It is a tradition in most african wedding that the groom must wear his grandfather’s Agbada. The Groom’s Wardrobe should at least include the following: Fila or Kufi (a round box hat) Sokoto (slacks that tie at the waist and narrow at the ankle). It is the groom’s responsibility to keep your men posted on when and where to get fitted on their wardrobe.
Groom’s Registry. There are two reasons why you need this first, it allows you to choose the things that you like in your new married life, second, it makes easier for the guests to shop for their wedding gift. Both the groom and the bride should be involved in this aspect. Be realistic about your needs and stick with the list that you had in hand. Wish for the things that is most meaningful to both the couple. This must be completed five months before your wedding day.